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Regarding Getting Married

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Yep seriously :) I mean, does it worth it really? Because i know some people who spend a lot of effort to get married. I am single so cant answer it myself

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Here's a hint. Try asking that question in Yahoo answers, as I'm pretty confident that you will find much more experienced people there to answer the question than waiting for a response from here :)

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To be honest, i believe that both of them worth it. I dont think that there could be anything more blessed than holding your own baby in your hands. Unfortunately some things are impossible sometimes. Life is strange...

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I won't get married till I am 30. I want to enjoy and travel as much as possible. I don't think I am prepared to be responsible for someone else as I am pretty irresponsible myself on decisions and monetary issues.

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I won't get married till I am 30. I want to enjoy and travel as much as possible. I don't think I am prepared to be responsible for someone else as I am pretty irresponsible myself on decisions and monetary issues.

well said, if u not ready, dont do it

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Someone once said.

 

Marriage is like a public toilet.

Those standing outside, want to go in urgently

Those inside it already, want to get out urgently.

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Someone once said.

 

Marriage is like a public toilet.

Those standing outside, want to go in urgently

Those inside it already, want to get out urgently.

 

  :D

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Someone once said.

 

Marriage is like a public toilet.

Those standing outside, want to go in urgently

Those inside it already, want to get out urgently.

 

That person is saying this based on what? Does he have any sources (citation) for this statement? I disagree with that statement..... 

 

I personally know some one who is in his 50's and is still not married.... I also know another person who got married in when he was 37 and another person at the age of 42 or 43.

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This is not a question to ask.

It is an experience to have.

It is like a roller coaster ride.

Some enjoys it some don't.

If you are ready to ride go for it

If not step aside.

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This is not a question to ask.

It is an experience to have.

It is like a roller coaster ride.

Some enjoys it some don't.

If you are ready to ride go for it

If not step aside.

 

I wouldn't call marriage a roller coaster but yes there can be tension between two different individuals from time to time but the most important thing is to resolve your differences before you go to bed. "Never go to bed angry"

 

This was one of the tips given during our 'mandatory' pre-marital counselling. I must say its a pretty good piece of advice. 

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I wouldn't call marriage a roller coaster but yes there can be tension between two different individuals from time to time but the most important thing is to resolve your differences before you go to bed. "Never go to bed angry"

This was one of the tips given during our 'mandatory' pre-marital counselling. I must say its a pretty good piece of advice.

Well nobody gave me that advise but I do follow this rule.

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I wouldn't call marriage a roller coaster but yes there can be tension between two different individuals from time to time but the most important thing is to resolve your differences before you go to bed. "Never go to bed angry"

 

This was one of the tips given during our 'mandatory' pre-marital counselling. I must say its a pretty good piece of advice. 

 

Well, even if the two of you go to bed angry, make sure, you dont wake up angry!  :wink:

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Once upon a time, a prince asked a princes to marry him she said 'no' and the prince went on to traveling the world, watching all the sports in his underwear on a Saturday, doing a lot of BBQ's, playing online games till late at night, went on skiing trips, spend a lot of cash in casino's, made a lot of cash in investments, bought the latest exotic sport cars, stayed in the most expensive apartments and enjoyed a lot of pizza

 

And left the toilet seat up.

 

The end.

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From a man's point of view, marriage is an never ending challenge. The person in front you is constantly changing. The emotions are a roller coaster ride.The person who you marry is what makes the whole process worthwhile or a disaster. It requires work. It requires time. Its wonderful on days and on others you might find yourself fighting day after day. You have to learn a lot about dealing with your wife. You choose you battles.

 

Coming from an Arab background and having a typical mother and father relationship where for the most part my mom did what my father asked, I was not trained for this. I had no role model. But dealing with people through my work has taught me the art of being political. but still I failed and keep failing on days because its a mixture of emotions and logic.

 

In short, Marriage is wonderful, blissful and will make a man grow if he chooses to be mind and heart at the right time. Your wife can say something when she is angry and you have to learn how not to get angry and to understand that she really doesn't mean it.

 

Reading Men are from Mars and women are from Venus teaches men a lot to be honest.

 

To give you an example of what marriage is like, imagine you have a lot of money and you walk by a Ferrari dealership for the first time. You see that lovely enzo and sales man tells you it can go this or that speed and does 0-60 in 1.2 seconds. You pull out your card and decide to buy the damn thing.

 

And enjoy your life for the first 2000 miles, then you find out how much the spare parts cost and the maintenance. One day you may get into your car and find a scratch on the hood. You might get into an accident, or get a ticket. 

 

 

You will unconsciously except all those things, you'll pull up and fill the car up with gas when it needs it, and you'll take really good car of it.

 

What people fail to realize is marriage is just like that Ferrari. Its lovely, it will take you places and make you really happy. But just like that expensive Ferrari, it requires gas, maintenance, it may fall apart one day and you need to be there.

 

 

 

The main difference is there is a linear approach to things, material things. With people, as men, we tend to think about marriage in the begging anyway, like that. 1+?=2, so logically the ? is 1, but not always, it could be 1+2-1+5-6=1

 

And dont see this as negative, when I tell people that your wife is a like never ending puzzle that keeps changing over time, they get intimated, but what they fail to understand is that its like being around a mmmm whats the right metaphor here.....since i'm hungry ill go with food, a different buffet every day.

 

Remember, its not about just love, or sex or companionship, because all of those things will fail at some point and be tested, its about the faith you both have in your relationship. That you really commit to each other, have each others backs, you see each other naked and not just physically. You know everything about her that no one knows and she about you.

 

Just be someone that really makes you feel amazing no matter what, but gives you enough crap that helps fertilizes your roots so you can grow stronger and smarter.

 

"don't find someone to grow old with, find someone to grow with"

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